Love. What does it really mean? I used to think love was forever. I was always told that love conquers all. That if you had it, you would have everything you would ever need and that everything else would come. In all honestly. That was the biggest load of bullshit that I've EVER had told to me. Well, second, the first was "I love you" by countless people who never meant a fucking word of it.
All I hear is love will do this and love will do that. What the hell do they know? I know for a damn fact that love isn't just some fucking feelings you have and think that they are suppose to last forever. Love, just like anything else, is work. You HAVE to put in work and craft it, and mold it into that which you make it. How can 1 want love, get it, and then expect not to put in work? If the saying is true that, "Anything worth having is worth fighting for," if that saying is true, then why isn't that true of love? How can you want something that you don't wanna work or fight for? Why is it that at the drop of every argument or that 1 fuck up happens, everyone wants to turn from and question if they love the person? If you love someone, why should a fuck up cloud if you really love a person? Love is clear and while it can be confused with lust, there are the ways that you can tell in order to differentiate the 2 of them.
Love doesn't run at the drop of a hat. If that was the case, then we all should have been dead a long time ago and we should all be going to hell for the simple fact that if God didn't send His Chosen One, we'd all be dead. Love doesn't run when an infidelity is committed. Love doesn't finch at the sight of a warped body or being in a wheelchair and love DEFINITELY doesn't cry foul and run just because arguments arise or something was said. Love is much more stronger and much more deeper than that. People who don't understand it will always question these things. They will always wonder why people stay with people who have cheated on them. They will always wonder why people stay with people who have had the unfortunate meeting of fate and have been mutilated or wounded or confound to a wheelchair. They wont understand why people stay because of the all the arguing.
What those people will never understand is that tests happen when you're dealing with love. Love tests you in ways that are painful and create sadness, but this is where the choice is to be made. Do you either run and convince yourself that that cant be love and that you don't love the person (it was never love to begin with) or do you stand and fight, knowing and hoping that it will get better? I can understand how the second option could be considered foolish. You can fight until you cant no longer, but you cant force a square peg into a triangle 1 nor can you command a dead horse to run. That I get. But most of the time, it's 2 people in the relationship and both must commit and put in work if they "love" each other. Most disagreements and arguments can be solved if listening to both points of view is heard. Sometimes all it takes is just hearing from the other perspective to ease major tension and strengthen the bond between 2 people. Some time it takes hashing out a solution and following through with it.
Whatever the case, love isn't easy like it's always portrayed in the movies. They always show the couple going through the hardships in the movie and then reuniting and loving each other by the end credits. What they don't show is the next part of the story. They don't show what happens after the credits end. They don't show the arguments. The disagreements. The sleepless nights. The sleeping on the couch. They don't show the hard part about love. The work. They just show the "honeymoon" phase. It takes a couple that's truly in love with each other to work through all the problems that life will throw their way. A LOT of people tend to forget that life STILL happens regardless of if you're in a relationship or not. Life's just gonna come harder at you once you're in 1. But that's why you 2 depend on each other. You are each other's comfort in the midst of the hurricane that's life. You're the reasonable 1 to each other when you wanna lose your damn mind and zebra punch life or a person. You're the pick-me-up to each other when one is having a bad day. You're the 1 ready to whoop a muthafucka when someone disrespects your mate or tries to slander them and they aren't around to defend themselves. You're the better half to the other. The strength to their weaknesses.
Love isn't something that is suppose to be taken lightly, which is why so many people don't know about it or know how to handle it when it comes to them. It's a shame that there are people out in the world that love to prey on people's emotions and hearts, twist and turn them and then break it like it was never there. That's why love is so distorted and so many people say they hate it or will never know it. It's because of the assholes and non-deserving that so many people are so messed up and blaming others who are more deserving of the past stupid asses. I know it isn't easy to let go and in certain cases, I couldn't honestly blame you, but at some point, it all needs to be let go and give the person you are with a chance to prove themselves and watch how they will surprise you. It can go either way, true enough. They can really prove that they love you and wanna give you the best that you truly deserve OR they can fuck you over. You can only do what you can control and what you cant, you leave in God's hands. If they happen to fuck you over, He will pay back a thousandfold on the offender and they will WISH that they never, EVER, harmed you or broke your heart.
Love is a lot of things, but never does it hurt or never does it harm. Only the people that are involved in the relationship do those kinds of things. Everyone wants to put the blame on love when it doesn't turn how the way they saw it in the movies or read in a book or even saw from their friends or family. Little do they know the road it took to get to that kind of affection or how hard they had to fight to get it or even the arguments they had to go through. Love is something beautiful, believe it and know that it's true, but before you start to envy what others have, always remember the road that it took to get there and how much sadness, arguments, and anger had to be gone through before true love, bliss and ecstasy could to be obtained. Always know that love can be yours, but are you willing to fight for what you love or who you love? The choice is yours...
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